Few people have made their mark quite so colourfully as jazz singer George Melly. Now approaching 80, he talks to Nigel Farndale about his life, his loves and his famous open marriage

Aside from his increasing deafness, weakening eyesight, incipient emphysema, difficulty with stairs, impotence, incontinence and feelings of faintness whenever he stands up too quickly, George Melly is, he tells me, feeling remarkably well.

“I’m about to turn 80,” he adds in a drawl that manages to be both booming and languorous. “Seventy-nine-year-olds always like to tell people that.”

His age, I am happy to report, has not compromised his flamboyant dress sense. He is wearing a sun-patterned kaftan, a handbag over his shoulder and an eyepatch.

In other respects he is still much as he was in 1961, the year he met his wife, Diana. As she recalled recently: “George was quite short and just getting to be rather plump; his feet were tiny so he minced slightly; he had brown eyes, a big nose, a huge smile and was famous for singing in a jazz band, and being bisexual.”

They were both married with children at the time of that meeting. In fact, she was on her second marriage and had two children by different fathers. She had a third the day after she married George in 1963.

They then threw themselves headlong into the Swinging Sixties – and theirs became a story of breakdown, sexual voracity, druggy decadence, therapy, trips to Morocco and, of course, famously, open marriage. It was the stuff of which good memoirs are made: Diana published hers this summer; George’s are published this week.

It is mid-morning and, diehard Bohemian that he is, George is enjoying his first Irish whiskey of the day. He is seated in a wooden object that is more contraption than chair. It complements the room, which swirls with surrealist paintings and dust motes caught in shafts of sunlight. He used to have a Picasso and a Magritte, he tells me, but he had to sell them to meet a tax demand and now his most precious treasure is a collage by Kurt Schwitters.

“This is very much my room,” he adds. “My taste. Diana has told me there’s no way she’s going to keep it as a shrine.” He studies his fingernails. “Our marriage is an elastic band that stretches but does not break. It began passionately and is finishing with compassion. She looks after me; makes sure I do what I have to; gets me to Ronnie Scott’s whenever I’m singing there. I suppose she has lived in my shadow a little, but only in public. Here she’s the WingCo. The Wing Commander. I still love her very much. We meet usually at suppertime.”

They are something of a double act, George and Diana Melly. She, arrives with a steaming cafetière on a tray, and two yappy dogs at her heels.

“Can we clear a space here,” George says, “and push back the…”

“George. I can see what to do.”

“Thank you, darling. Real coffee, what a luxury.”

“If you like real coffee, why don’t you ever make it?”

“I haven’t learnt. Do you have to grind the beans?”

“Yes, George.” She rolls her eyes. “You grind them underfoot.” When she leaves, he says: “It’s true, I’m not terribly practical. Diana gave me a vibrating pager once and when I failed to respond to it we discovered that I had been carrying around an electric razor I had picked up by mistake. It’s the burden of age, like checking your flies. At first you forget to do them up, then you reach the stage where you forget to undo them.”

He emits a bass chuckle. “Sorry. I make jokes. I can’t help it. Laughing away in the face of my demise. Diana describes me as maddeningly cheerful. She’s had 44 years of me being maddeningly cheerful, so she quite likes it when I’m not.”

Now that he is impotent, he says matter-of-factly, his two remaining pleasures are fly fishing and listening to Bessie Smith, the blues singer who inspired his own singing style. He has to use what he calls a “Granny mobile” nowadays, for the trout fishing. “The trouble is I can’t wade any more. Now I do the chalk rivers from the bank.”

George Melly is aware that part of his enduring appeal is his ability to shock. His party piece used to be to strip off naked and do an impression of a bulldog (don’t ask). And in his latest volume of autobiography, Slowing Down, he writes nonchalantly: “I am not a rapist, although on a few occasions, usually frustrated with brewer’s droop, I have got a bit violent.” His candour, I note, borders on the eccentric. “Well I don’t see why not. I don’t deliberately try to shock, I try to liberate.”

Has reckless honesty become an addiction for him? “No, ask Diana, I tell endless lies. I also have an annoying tendency to turn everything into an anecdote. At least, it annoys Diana because she’s heard them all. I tend to recycle them a lot.”

He was born in Liverpool, to middle-class parents. His father was a wool broker. “I loved him. He was witty, clever and idle. He hated business. His motto was ‘as long as they’re happy’. My mother was a fag hag. To win her approval, I became camp.

She would have liked me to become a Noel Coward type.” After school (Stowe), Melly joined the Royal Navy – “because I liked the uniform” – but was almost court martialled for distributing anarchist literature. He was mainly gay in his adolescence, he says, bisexual in the Navy and heterosexual in later life.

How does that work, exactly, this shifting orientation? “Mulligan, my first band leader, thought I wasn’t gay at all. He thought I hadn’t had enough of the other, and he might have been right. It wasn’t a moral decision. It may have been to do with my mother. Diana disagrees. She says that people are gay, no matter what. I think I realised I had become straight one day in my mid-thirties when some beautiful young people rode past on bicycles and I suddenly realised that I had looked at the girls, not the boys. ”

How, I ask, does an open marriage work? “Well, it worked quite well for me. I was able to juggle two or three mistresses at a time. But Diana managed to choose men who were horrible to her and tortured her mentally. They weren’t nice to her, but she refused any comfort from me at any point. We went to a Freudian marriage guidance analyst, who hated me. He hated me making jokes and suddenly said: ‘Look, your wife is crying, why don’t you put an arm around her?’ and I said, ‘Because I will be pushed halfway across the room if I tried.’ He didn’t grasp that. There wasn’t even any holding hands between us.”

Diana Melly has said that George always went for “mad, difficult women”, herself included (she tried to commit suicide, after her son from an earlier marriage died of a heroin overdose). “Yes, neurotic and chaotic women,” George clarifies. “Diana puts it down to my needing needy people. Well, she was one of them, so she should know. I think it probably did make me feel protective, which I enjoy, or like, or want, or need – choose whichever word you want from that list.”

Is it possible, I ask, to be in love with more than one person at a time? “Yes. I’m still in love with Diana. I do love her. You do know that. It’s important you understand that. I sometimes watch her out of this window, putting things in the car…” He doesn’t finish the thought.

“But I was in love with others at the same time. Heather I think I was in love with. I suppose I enjoy playing two people off at the same time. There was a Venetia, who was posh, and a Heather who was not posh. She kept her socks on in bed, a fetish of mine.”

He is desperate for a cigarette, he says, but Diana allows him to smoke only in his bedroom, so we repair up there. It is painted dark green and looks like a bordello.

Melly coughs as he lights his cigarette. “I have chronic bronchitis,” he says, “which is why I have inhalers. But I thought at my age if it carries me off, well so be it. Smoking kills, but so does life. I think it helps my singing voice a bit, the growling. See that lot up there?” – he points to a line of pill bottles – “I call that my Damien Hirst installation. I have to take a bucket load of them every day. I don’t understand people panicking about death. It’s inevitable. I’m an atheist; you’d think it would make it worse, but it doesn’t. I’ve done quite a lot in the world, not necessarily of great significance, but I have done it.”

Downstairs in the kitchen, I meet Diana again. “Marriage is a complicated thing,” she says with impressive understatement. “Sometimes there were four in this marriage. It evolves from the passion of first encounter to companionship; I now describe myself as caring for him. Caring about him as well. He’s a very good person. Impossible but charismatic. He’s the definitive exhibitionist. He takes up a lot of space. He even manages to be cheerful about his illnesses. He never complains. Did you see his pill box?

“I do think we’re very lucky still to be together, because we could easily not have been. I think money helps. George was very generous. He’s never said: ‘You can’t take him out to dinner because it’s my money.’ The combination of taking other lovers and arguing about money would be death to an open marriage. The trick is not to quarrel about money.

“You can quarrel about the lovers a bit. I never minded Venetia. And Heather I like very much. And Louisa I like. But the Greckle I don’t like. [Not her real name. It’s what Diana calls George’s mistress of the past quarter century, naming her after a screeching West Indian bird.] I found all that humiliating. He was always saying he was going to leave me for her. She was a nightmare. I felt she was dangerous. I felt threatened by her. ”

Is the secret to an open marriage making a distinction between love and sex? “No, because I think George was in love with Heather and Louisa. I got a letter from a woman the other day who was worried that her husband was having an affair, and I wrote back and said: ‘Get a dog, something else to love and care for, then you can stop worrying about your husband.’ That I think, is the secret to a successful open marriage – get a dog.”


James Blunt

It could be the homes around the world; his military bearing; or that he’s our biggest musical export since Elton. For whatever reason, being called annoying, a philanderer or – worse – middle class doesn’t exactly keep James Hillier Blount awake at night. Nigel Farndale met him

It’s not the sight of the groupies that haunts me, but the sound, or rather the absence of sound, as they ghost past us on their way up the stairs to the dressing-room. It takes me a moment to figure out that the reason they aren’t talking to each other is that they don’t know each other. One of the band members, the keyboard player, I think, has picked them from the audience on the basis of their looks. Half-a-dozen of them, all in their late teens and early twenties, and all, surprisingly, in pretty frocks, as if they were going to a Sunday school meeting. They have been separated from their friends like lambs weaned from their mothers. The silence of the lambs.

The ‘us’ they are filing past is James Blunt and me. He has a bottle of beer in one hand, a cigarette in the other, and not a hair in place – tousled just so, like a Renaissance painting of John the Baptist – but they don’t realise it’s him because he has changed out of the suit he was wearing on stage and is now in jeans, T-shirt and leather jacket, as well as a pink feather boa and star-shaped novelty sunglasses. But I’m getting ahead of myself. This is the end of the day; we need to go back to the start, well, to the middle, when the seats are empty and the Texan sun is at its most unforgiving.

A barefoot and unshaven Blunt is wearing normal sunglasses and shorts as he plays his piano, strums his guitar and sings his plaintive songs into the microphone for the sound check, all the while looking out with his soulful eyes over an empty, open-air arena in Houston. At 5ft 7in, he’s not a tall man, but he has presence and an unaffected manner – a certain maturity, too, one that you wouldn’t normally associate with a pop star in the ascendant.

But then he is 34 and this is his second career, his first being as an officer in the Household Cavalry. He joined after graduating from Bristol University with a degree in sociology. He became a champion skier for the Army and not only saw active service in Kosovo, but also guarded the Queen Mother’s coffin when she was lying in state.

Tonight he will be supporting Sheryl Crow, though, since his second album ‘All the Lost Souls’ and the single from it, ‘1973’, went straight to number one in America, he is arguably the bigger act these days. Indeed, not since Elton John has there been a more successful British singer-songwriter in the States.

His first album, ‘Back to Bedlam’, also went to number one over here, as it did in 18 other countries, making it the biggest-selling album of the millennium. It even entered the Guinness Book of Records as the fastest-selling album in one year. But it was his first single that really put him on the map. You’re Beautiful became the sound of that summer. It was everywhere, and still is – having become a favourite at weddings, funerals and bar mitzvahs. I even heard a brass band playing it at an agricultural show in the Yorkshire Dales this summer.

As well as millions of sales, James Blunt has won Brit awards, Ivor Novello awards, MTV awards and various Grammy nominations. In terms of credibility, he’s headlined at Glastonbury and won the respect of the world-weary music press. Yet not everyone loves him, as he points out when we get something to eat in the canteen area back stage.

‘After Back to Bedlam really started selling,’ he says, ‘there was this sudden aggression towards me in the UK, for whatever reason, and that focused my mind, made it clear to me what I was doing and why I wanted to do it. I write songs for myself. I don’t write them for you, or for anyone else, I write them because I have experiences that I need to process. I don’t have the answers all the time, but I do have lots of questions, and I express them in the songs I write.’

He is, I think, alluding to a poll last year of ‘the most annoying things in life’, which put him at number four, just behind cold-callers and queue-jumpers. ‘I haven’t met anyone who voted in the poll, have you?’ he says when I mention this. ‘That poll probably came from a website that was after some publicity. You and I could do the same poll very quickly right now and it would count as a poll. We could do one about annoying newspapers, for example. I promise the Sunday Telegraph wouldn’t be in my list. My parents take it.’

His father, a retired colonel in the Army Air Corps, manages his son’s finances. His mother arranged the purchase of his six-bedroom villa in Ibiza (he also has a chalet in Verbier and recently bought a place in Chelsea). ‘I’m not married,’ he says, ‘and so the support structure in my life is my parents. I’m closer to them now than I have ever been.’

He certainly isn’t married, as the photographs of him emerging from nightclubs with various high-profile women on his arm attest. Tara Palmer-Tomkinson was probably the best known socialite, Jessica Sutta, of the Pussycat Dolls, the most glamorous. He also seems to be photographed regularly cavorting on beaches with bikini-clad models such as Petra Nemcova, whom he dated and then dumped – unceremonious dumping being his way of ending relationships, according to the tabloids. He once said he found himself in a swimming pool in LA with nine naked women. ‘I was the only bloke. It was the only time I wished my mates were there, purely to spectate. I had arrived. It was a moment.’

Now he says of the tabloid interest in his peripatetic love life: ‘Last week I went to my home in Ibiza and was photographed by the paparazzi in my swimming trunks with girls. What is the point of that? I’m not that bothered, but maybe the media should be concentrating more on global warming or the Russian invasion of Georgia.

‘Looking at me in my swimming trunks is not a great sight. It’s a waste of time. There generally is a long lens pointing at me wherever I go, these days. I’m comfortable with it. I appreciate how things work. But my record label said something about my always being photographed coming out of nightclubs and I thought, “But this is what I do. I was doing it before the second album came out, so what is different now? You didn’t tell me to stop then.” I’m not going to change my life because of these people. I don’t see why I should.’

His label also gets him to dye his grey hairs and be enigmatic about his love life, which is an old tactic dating back to the Beatles – they had to pretend they didn’t have wives and girlfriends so that fans could fantasise they were in with a chance.

Actually, at the time of going to press, Blunt seems to be going out again with one of his old flames, Verity Evetts, an Oxford-educated barrister. He has also stayed friendly with some of his other exes, the socialites at least. He told one – an ex who got married not long ago – that he doesn’t feel ‘centred’ at the moment and would like to get married as well. Then again, he also said that he never tires of singing You’re Beautiful night after night because it gets him laid night after night.

Either way, he tells me he has grown used to the idea that his mother will probably find out from the papers what he has been up to, and with whom, before he has had a chance to tell her. ‘And my [two] sisters are quick to email me about things in the papers, laughing their heads off. I get healthy, ritual abuse from them, and give it back myself.’

As we are talking, I can’t decide whether the way Blunt smiles all the time is disarming or disturbing. He’s like a victim of a religious cult, smiling at the beginning of the sentence and at the end. I guess he has a lot to smile about, but also I sense a great deal of insecurity to disguise.

Then, I’m distracted by the sight of Sheryl Crow playing table tennis across the room. She has been holding her adopted son in one arm as she bats with the other, and now, even more distractingly, she is heading straight for us. ‘Are we going to have one of our little conversations on stage again tonight, James?’ she says. ‘That flirting thing. I think it worked well last night.’

They discuss the duet they will sing – a cover of Cat Stevens’s The First Cut is the Deepest – then we both watch her shimmy away, her blonde curls bobbing. ‘She’s very down to earth,’ he says. ‘I’d met her a couple of times, which was why she asked me on this tour. We do end up playing a lot of table tennis on the road. We’ve done 117 shows so far this year, in 117 cities, and there are a lot of hours to fill in the day.’

As he sleeps on his tour bus with his band, one city tends to blur into another. When I joke that he is in Cincinnati now, he looks genuinely confused. ‘No, this is?… Oh, right. Actually, I always get the tour manager to say where we are just as I’m going on stage. I still managed to get it wrong the other night, saying “Hello Dallas” when I meant Austin. I’m surprised I got out alive.’

He is funny on the subjects of things that go wrong. ‘People are normally surprised by my show, which is more energetic than you might think. Jumping on the piano. Jumping out into the audience and running up and down the aisle high-fiving them. But going off the stage can be quite dangerous. I broke my finger once. My legs carried on when I jumped off, and I smacked down on the ground. The spotlight was on me, and when I got back to the piano I hit the wrong note and thought, “Why did I do that?” And I looked down and saw it was because my finger was broken, sticking out an angle. Look,’ he says holding it up. ‘It’s still crooked.’

On another occasion, in Chicago, he jumped 8ft off the stage. ‘When I began running to the audience, a security guard stuck his arm out and I thought, “Does he want a hug?” Then next thing I know he’s rugby-tackled me. He wouldn’t release me and I was screaming in his ear, “I’m the f—ing singer.” I had to wait for the other guards to pull him off.’

I would have thought Blunt’s training in unarmed combat would have helped. I presume he still works out. ‘No, never. Couldn’t handle it. Too boring. I am a hyperactive person though.’ He likes an adrenaline rush, as well, having recently bought an 1100cc Moto Guzzi V11 Sport motorbike. There’s also the skiing, which he still does, and the riding. Actually, he tells me, he never really liked horses before joining the Life Guards. So why did he join that particular regiment?

‘Well, it is a reconnaissance regiment.’ But they are all so tall in the Life Guards, did that not make him self-conscious? ‘Some are. The Foot Guards tend to be taller regiments, though. The Life Guards take a few shrimps, as well. Besides, they are on horses, so height isn’t so important. Also being in that regiment had the benefit of being in Knightsbridge. I got a chance to be in London and meet people in the music scene.’ And groupies, as it happens.

As he paraded up and down the Mall in plumed helmet and shiny breastplate, girls would stick their phone numbers down his knee-length boots. But it was his time in Kosovo that really made girls swoon. He used to strap his guitar to the outside of his tank, because there wasn’t room for it inside. He had learnt to play the violin at five, the piano at seven and the guitar at 14, while a pupil at Harrow.

He writes his songs on piano and guitar. ‘But mainly guitar because it is easier to carry around. It’s like a child messing around with a toy. If a tune comes to me I don’t record it instantly. I think if I remember it, then it must be worth remembering, and if I forget it, then it was forgettable.’

Does he have any anxiety dreams about forgetting lines or chords? ‘Not yet. Perhaps I will tonight. Perhaps you’ve jinxed me. But audiences aren’t judgmental, and if things go wrong and you can look them in the eye, that is fine. The only people who are judgmental are the journalists. I will be conscious of you being there in the audience judging me.’

Blimey. Sorry about that. Is it true he signs breasts? ‘Not that I remember. Not that I’m fussy what I sign. A lot of men started coming to the shows after I appeared on Top Gear last year. That was such fun. I spun the car five times. I thought I might as well make the most of it. I am competitive.’

He recorded one of the fastest laps, but I’m surprised blokes didn’t think him manly before that, given his tour of duty in Kosovo. ‘It’s because I sing songs that are heart-on-your-sleeve and therefore I must be overly emotional. Nothing I can do about it. I could pose more, but I am comfortable with my masculinity.’

He has said that his lyrics are autobiographical, in which case, are we to assume that the lyric on his new album, ‘I killed a man in a far away land’, means he killed a man in a far away land? I only ask because in the past he has said that he would never try to exploit what he went through, what he saw. ‘You should ask any soldier how many lives he has saved. How they do it is no one else’s business. What I took from my experience in Kosovo is that you are told from one day to the next who your enemy is and it keeps changing. That’s what is happening in Iraq, too. I believe in looking people in the eye, looking for the common humanity.’

He is a great believer in looking people in the eye. He will use the phrase again later and it seems to reveal a Christ complex, or a John the Baptist one. That direct and challenging stare of his. It would also explain the hair.

It is time for him do some photographs before he goes on stage and, endearingly, he says he is ‘not fussed’ about the grooming he is offered before they are taken.

On stage his features contort with passion when he sings. The big video screen goes in tight on his face. His voice is by turns soft and tremulous and forceful, but always high. Having seen him in concert once before, a couple of years ago, I notice the tone of his banter has changed.

‘Wow it’s hot tonight,’ he says now. ‘I’m surprised any of you are wearing any clothes. We could all take them off and get friendly.’ It is suggestive, designed to get the teenage girls in the audience screaming. Before he used to joke about his ‘girlie voice’ and taking helium to get it that way, and being ‘a bit wet’ and the ‘housewives’ favourite’. I think now he has realised that, actually, he is a proper musician, a popular one, too, and that he doesn’t need to apologise for it.

Afterwards, back in the dressing-room, he strips to the waist as he talks because he wants to take a shower before going back on to do his duet with Sheryl Crow. ‘Things got a bit hairy out there when I jumped into the crowd,’ he says. ‘Did you see that? Some thought it was some kind of sport to grab me.’

I watch his duet from the side of the stage and notice he whispers something in Sheryl Crow’s ear and then she starts running her hands over his trousers suggestively, patting them. Afterwards, I ask what he said. ‘”Is now a good time to ask for your phone number?” She was checking my pockets, pretending to look for a pen.’

He shows me round the gold-coloured tour bus where he will be sleeping tonight as they drive to their next gig in Dallas. It is full of hi-tech equipment and is nicely air-conditioned but there isn’t much space in the bunks. ‘We do live in close proximity,’ he says. ‘Some of us stay up late. This is the crew end, they have to get up early.’

Where do the groupies go? ‘Never have groupies on here. Never. They’d only get in if we invited them in. But we’d only ever invite friends in.’

Does he sleep OK? I heard he has to take sleeping pills. ‘It is a bit of a rough sleep, but better than a hotel and taking planes all the time because you have to get to the airport two hours early, which is miserable. Then your flight gets delayed.’

He is drinking champagne from a plastic cup. ‘This is for your benefit,’ he says. ‘The tour management went out and bought a bottle of champagne because he thought I should be seen drinking it. Better for my image. Isn’t that sweet? Normally, we drink vodka and beer. In fact, I think I’d rather have a beer, now. Want one?’ He opens a well-stocked fridge then takes me to the back of the bus where there is some seating space. He has one small case which he pulls out from a cupboard. It continues a few pairs of socks, T-shirts and a spare pair of jeans. No photographs or mementos. ‘This is all I have for 14 months on the road,’ he says. ‘I’m not known for style.’

Does he know how much he is worth? ‘No I don’t, not very interested in it to be honest. I travel with hand luggage only. That is why I always seem to be wearing the same clothes in photographs. If a tabloid says my clothes aren’t fashionable or my hair looks stupid, I really don’t worry about it. Don’t have any hair gel.’

In London, he takes the Tube or the bus. He prefers pubs to restaurants. When he goes to Ibiza, he flies easyJet. Still, that’s at home. Presumably on the road he can afford to be more self-indulgent.

Another lyric that we can only assume is autobiographical is ‘I’ve taken a s—load of drugs’. It is. Though his only comment on the subject is that he has ‘a comfortable relationship with drugs’. His relationship with fame is less comfortable. Oscar Wilde said there were two forms of tragedy: not getting what you want, and getting it. Is that how it felt for him when he went to number one? ‘Actually, I don’t think I had been dreaming about it. Certainly, I hadn’t anticipated being so recognisable so quickly.

‘I do remember getting a phone call from the record company, who said both the single and the album have gone to number one, and thinking, “S—, this is not what I expected.” I hadn’t prepared myself for it. Number two is great. Number two is nice. I sensed then it would mean having to change from being a musician to being a celebrity and that that would be a change for the worse. Fame doesn’t affect me, but it does affect everyone else around me. As for celebrity, it is the worst invention of the modern world. Gossip columns treat your life as if it were a cartoon. Relationships reduced to cartoons.’

Although there are other public-school bands around at the moment – Radiohead, Coldplay – Blunt seems to have suffered more than most from a perception that he is too posh to be credible. His family name is Blount (and his middle name Hillier), but he changed it to Blunt to sound, well, blunter and more proletarian.

When he tells me he would nevertheless still send a son of his to Harrow – ‘I think I would. I think I would. Public schools make individuals rather than sheep’ – I ask what he makes of the mood change now that the old Etonian David Cameron has made it OK to be posh. ‘Is it? I must come back to Britain immediately. Is it really safe to come back?

‘It’s not a dirty word to be posh, people come up to me and no one gives a damn if I’m posh. It’s about having a normal conversation and looking people in the eye.’

We head back to the dressing-room where he puts on his feather boa and novelty sunglasses then we wander back downstairs to have a word with Sheryl Crow, who is signing autographs. This is the moment at which the keyboard player says: ‘This way to the good-time room girls’ and the silent groupies dutifully appear.